We weren’t invited to the simcha of a friend. It stings. Having a rough time letting it go, it came out at our shabbos table. Then, I thought of Charlotte and all that she stands for and with that message I told our family we must get over it for the sake of shalom and for Charlotte. My daughter (who watched the Living L’Chaim video with me) fully understood and imparted the message to the family too (it was nice to have back up here). It’s not an instant fix as our feelings were deeply hurt, but once the topic arises we now remind ourselves we can not hold a grudge and we can move past. Its a mindshift. And we are actively working on turning off the hurt and turning up the shalom.