I had a best friend for 20 years. We were like brothers. We did everything together. We hung out all the time. I grew up in his house and he grew up in my house. Thousands of memories and jokes together. I got married at 23 and we always kept up our relationship. My kids called him uncle. He was an older single and I even set him up with my sister-in-law. At 30 he finally found someone but was still hesitant about her and I personally helped him through a lot of hurdles and convinced him to get married to his current wife (although I had never met her).
It took a very short time to realize that she didn’t like me or any of his friends. We weren’t fans of her either to say the least but at least he got married and we hoped it would be diff one day soon.
6 months after his Marraige, my wife made me a surprise birthday party and invited him and his wife. After the party I noticed an even bigger change in his demeanor towards me. I finally called him out and said I’m not sure what’s going on but this doesn’t seem very healthy. Can you let me know what’s going on. He sat me down and told me that his wife accused me of making a move on her at my birthday party in public. The accusation itself is psychotic. We are all good guys and never would entertain such an idea. But this was even more ridiculous because I literally hated her. And I told him so. But it didn’t really matter and ultimately because of that he hasn’t spoken to me in 3 years. Obviously it was very painful there is no replacing a best friend/brother of 20 years.
Over the years I finally worked on seeing it from his perspective and understanding that he is in a very tough predicament. I saw him on July 29th at a wedding and in honor of Charlotte I mustered up the courage to go over to him and I told him that I forgive him and I understand he’s in a tough predicament and I miss him dearly and hopefully one day things could change.
I wish I could say that everything is back to normal but at least I know that I took care of my side.