My in law family has hurt me terribly, in many different ways. Just this pesach I had enough and decided that I’m pulling back on the relationship and not going back besides for sukkos and pesach. My in laws realized what was going on, and it caused alot of pain to my in laws and a rift in the family.
In the zchus of charlottes neshama, I’m going to do my own work on realizing that the pain was supposed to be in my life, and they were the shlichim for that. It’s from Hashem, not them.
I’m going to be spending next shabbos with them when a sister-in-law comes in from E”Y. It will not be easy, and I will make sure to take care of myself emotionally and physically (lots of chocolate;) when I am there. But I do think that for the sake of shalom in the family, it is the right thing.

Thank you to the Herzbergs and Binny for putting yourselves out there amidst the pain that you are all going through, to help bring more shalom within klal yisroel. You all have so many zchusim.