I held a grudge against a family member who married into my family almost 9 years ago. She made my life miserable and it really affected my relationship with the family member she married. I especially hated how she chose to make my life difficult by marrying my relative (her 4th wedding, my first), a week before my wedding when it really made mine and my chosson’s life extremely difficult for no reason. I really disliked her. I have decided to actively forgive her despite my ill feelings toward her.