Our son, S decided that we did not care for his children since we did not attend their ball games. We lived an hour and a half away, both my husband and I worked 6 days a week and thought that we couldn’t take time off to attend those games. I did attend some of their activities, sometimes baby sat, and as often as were invited would spend Shabbat with them. Just as a note, I did tell my son and daughter in law that if they invite us to school programs that we would attend. The invitations to that never came until their oldest son graduated from eighth grade, and then only came the night before the graduation. I had other plans, that would have been canceled had I received an invite to the graduation, but could not change last minute. His father and grandmother did attend the graduation. Now many years later,(between 10-15 years) he still has a hard time interacting with us. He’ll speak to me when I first approach him, however, he hasn’t spoken to his father all of those years. Even when attending functions at our house, he does not say one word to his father, not hello when he enters the house or good bye when he leaves. I have told him and written him many times that I forgive him, but it has never been reciprocated. Our daughter in Law, M, has started to speak to us. I don’t know if it’s genuine or not, but I’ll give her Kav Zechut. Even though we have 4 other children it is still hard all of these years to have such disconnect from S . In the Aliya of Charlotte’s neshama I am again saying how I am forgiving S and hope he’ll see that in the scheme of things we do love him and hope to have him rejoin the family.