I’m in shidduchim for a number of years. Someone related to me redt me a shidduch and spoke in a way that was very hurtful when the shidduch ended. Since then I haven’t had the warmest feelings toward this family. I’m choosing to try to see their perspective and realize they didn’t mean harm and they are still good people. No one can harm me, I was supposed to feel that pain. liIluy nishmas Shaindel a”H bas Chaim Yehuda Leib.