I had a very painful past with some relatives. This yom tov, they had both been ill and needed some hospitality for yom tov. I offered them a place to stay and invited them for two meals. It took changing my narrative about them in my mind. Sometimes it felt great and other times it brought back unpleasant memories. But I know it is what Hashem wants and you have created the momentum for this. May it be an aliyas neshama for Charlotte zl.