My wife has been losing her cool a lot with the little kids and me. I have been trying to let her anger go. It hasn’t been easy trying to get past the times she outright mean to me. I started a campaign in my mind called “it never happened, for Charlette.” In the campaign instead of trying to get over her being mean I am simply pretending all the times she is not being nice to me never happened and trying to give her all the love and connection I can. I am doing everything I can to see her with a positive eye and know it’s not her, but just her getting overwhelmed. I am constantly wiping her slate fully clean and instead of trying to forgive I am pretending it’s nonexistent. Already she’s commented she feels more loved. If I can forgive maybe god can forgive my sins in elul for me and out people.