I was summoned to the office of my boss, who also originally hired me. He had been let go after many years of working at our company. He is a complex person with many talents and many, many significant deficiencies. Although the deficiencies always troubled me, I did not speak poorly about him to any one on our board. He felt, however, that I had somehow been involved in his removal. He called me to his office and redressed me for not showing hakatoras ha’tov. I was stunned, because I have always been grateful to him for hiring me and supporting me. I very often publicly thank him in front of my family for the food that we eat -for were it nor for him I would not have this job. I also used to daven for him that he overcome his deficiencies.

I am (was) privately upset that he would say about me that I am ungrateful. But I understand that it is coming from his own point of pain, and therefore I can let go of my being upset.