Years ago, we had a very unpleasant experience with an extended family member. After hosting a host Simcha for them and giving them a gift, my husband received the most unpleasant phone call of his relative, screaming at him for giving his son such a small gift. We were very hurt and upset years went by and we had no contact with them recently our daughter got married and we invited this relative to the wedding. We decided it was an easy way to extend ourselves and begin to make Shalom with them. Today we decided to go to their home and visit them after 16 years of having almost no contact with them. We had such a pleasant meal with them. There was no mention of the hurtful words that were exchanged in the past, but the nonverbal message of the mutual effort to make Shalom was clear. It was not easy and we felt perfectly fine having no contact with them, but we were inspired by your initiative and wanted to bring more Shalom into the world.