Yesterday I felt that my brother in law caused my sister to have mental illness. I judged him for not taking of her properly and pressuring her to work when she needed to be home with the kids and taking care of herself. The situation was so bad that she developed a terrible case of PPD that is affecting her everyday life many years later (and will probably affect her and her family forever).

Today, in honor of Charlotte a”h and your beautiful family I chose to speak to someone about it in order to process the pain, let go, and move on. I’m going to have compassion for him, I am going to notice the good, I am not him and I don’t know the effort he is putting to improve himself. I am going to believe truly that he is not the cause, that this was meant to happen, and that his actions are between him and Hashem. I am going to analyze my deeds to see where I can improve in these areas and pray for him continuously. I will get rid of all hatred and have shalom. Thank you for helping all of klal yisrael bring Mashiach!